Question Time

[icepixie]

I'm bored, so have an old meme, reborn like a phoenix via rivendellrose:

The problem with LJ: we all think we are so close, but really, we know nothing about each other. So I want you to ask me something you think you should know about me. Something that should be obvious, but you have no idea about. Ask away.

Fannish, RL, whatever, it's all good.

Comments

[icepixie]

do you consider yourself asexual, then, or just sort of not-real-life-sexual?

I...am unsure how those would differ, actually. I consider myself asexual/aromantic, in that I have never been interested in anything beyond friendship with anyone. While I consider certain people more attractive than others, it's exactly like how I consider certain flowers or birds or whatever more attractive than others; it's purely an aesthetic rather than a hormonal(?) judgment. This would encompass not-real-life-sexual, as far as I can tell...

(See also: my asexuality tag.)

[rivendellrose.livejournal.com]

I think that's what I was after, whether or not there was a difference. I think one of the most interesting things about sexuality is the extent to which fantasy reflects or otherwise impacts interest in the real world (I tend to be much more broadly interested in sexuality in the fictional/fantasy realm than I am in my fairly staid and moderately low-libido real life - apparently it's more interesting if it's only happening in my head, and with people who aren't me!), and I was curious whether or not anything similar went on with you, as it's something I'd always faintly wondered about asexuality in general.

[icepixie]

Glad I managed to answer it, even if I'm still not entirely sure I understand the question. ;)

I think maybe it can be divided like this: in RL, with real people, I care not one whit about sex and/or romance. With fictional characters, I'm interested in a spectrum of relationships inclusive of romance (or I wouldn't write the kind of fic I do) because that's true to the characters; however, when it comes to NC-17 stuff, I'm firmly in the "fade to black" camp both on paper and in my head. If that makes sense. Like, "This pairing is probably made up of people who are interested in sex and who have sex with each other, but I don't ever really think about the details."